Boy-Girls and Girl-Boys

Posted: August 17, 2013 in Uncategorized

August 1st, 2009

So about 15 years ago, my six-year-old niece is in the family room where a bunch of my brothers and sisters have gathered. We’re all just hanging out, remember when this, remember when that, remember when Gram tripped at Hickory Farms and her wig popped off…you get the idea.

All of the sudden, my niece interrupts the conversation to say “Uncle Greg is a girl-boy because he likes to cook.” Without prompting, she continues around the room. “Daddy is a boy-boy because he fixes things. Aunt Kathy is a girl-girl because she wears dresses. Aunt Anne is a boy-girl because she likes to drink beer.”

Without knowing what she was expressing, my niece was able, in her own way, to identify the sexual orientation of each of my siblings. Of course we all laughed about it and began using the term to refer to gays (girl-boys) and lesbians (boy-girls). But on a more serious level, I find this “out-of-the-mouths-of-babes” story fascinating. To me, it speaks out against the concept that some people think kids need to be “sheltered” from knowledge of homosexuality for various reason (they won’t understand, their own orientation will be somehow altered, etc.)

Advice to ”some people” from a forty-three year old girl-boy: Don’t shelter them. They’ll understand on an age-appropirate level. And, as a result, I would expect them to be more open, gracious, and Christian toward their neighbor later in life.

Especially if they should eventually discover a boy-girl or girl-boy orientation within themselves.

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